This article was perfect timing for what I have been dealing with these past couple weeks. My roommate just found out her parents are dating after being divorced for several years. They split when the kids were in high school after being married for 22 years. The relationship had turned to be about the kids and what is the best parenting technique rather than talking about each other, going on dates and making each other laugh like they had used to.
In "Is There Love After Baby?", the article talks about a woman nemaed Stephanie and her daughter Linda. "We're managing Linda very well. But with Art's promotion from teacher to principal and my going back to work, and feeling guilty about being away from Linda, we don't get much time for us." Yes, I can only imagine how much time a child must take out of the typical day, but I think it is very important to steal at least ten minutes for conversation, laughter, share stressors, talk about work or the day. Those moments need to be cherished to the spark stays alive.
I understand how your roomate feels, I just recently found out that my dad and my step mom are getting a divorce. She wasnt really ever that nice to me however it does still bug me. Something I wished for when I was a little girl so my parents could reconcile was just a wish of mine however now that its happening it bothers me. I guess she has been in my life for 20 years and I couldn't picture my dad with anyone else because after my mom he wasn't with anyone else but her. So is there love after a baby I can answer your question I believe that there is it just has to be rekindled sometimes. Having a baby is hard work, when I first had my daughter it was hard for me to adjust but i did it. It meant taking me time and making it into we time.
ReplyDeleteI agree there is love after baby as long as you make the effort and take the time to stay involved with each other not just as parents of your children but as partners and equally important as love interests.
ReplyDeleteElizabeth McMains